Just a quick one today. I’ve been busy for the last few days, really busy with kids and my own extra-curricular activities. Being a homemaker is not so bad after all lah. I’m beginning to love it now, I've finally found my bearing...thank God! I'm leaving for my in-laws place after Friday prayers for my bro-in-law’s engagement ceremony. It’ll be a very busy weekend for me, and the weather is not helping too. It’s scorching hot here lately. I just recovered from repeating migraine. Hopefully it won’t come back this weekend...insyaAllah. Owh, I found air kelapa@nyoq really helps for migraine, it's a godsend I tell ya.
Btw, I told my hubby the other day that shopping is perhaps the best cure for my headache. He said if I were to go shopping, he will have a headache pulak...kwang3x. So no shopping for me...*sob sob*
Next week my new adventure starts. I wanted to learn how to swim for ages but I just didn’t have the courage to. I’m too chicken to go into the water...hahaha. Fyi, I have never fully submerged my head into the water, ever! A group of us managed to find a female instructor...yahoo!!! But I hope she won’t give me a hard time though, she has this rather fierce look y’ol...ahkak takutss! Wish me luck people, I need it really bad. I will survive, I will survive...*reciting this in my head*
Last nite when I was working on some work on my computer, as usual my teenage son came to kiss my hand before he went to bed (this has become a routine for all my kids). Right after he kissed my hand he surprised me by giving me a peck on my forehead, something that he has not done in a very long time. I was taken aback by his gesture of affection towards me. I feel so overwhelmed with loved that I almost shed some tears! Sometimes little things that you expect the least makes your day... I love my kiddos.
I say it’s never too late to learn just about anything. If I succeeded in my swimming lesson perhaps I should take up another language. French perhaps.
Friday, April 23, 2010
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
When desperate housewives partayyy
Please don’t be alarmed or get too excited with the title of this article. I may be the only ‘desperate’ housewife in the group LOL...some of them are successful entrepreneurs themselves (I’m green with envy yet so proud of them. Girl power!). But you won’t believe what we are capable of doing when we get together as a group! What a crazy bunch of gals...I loikeee!!! We definitely rock!
Awat gambaq jadi kecik tak tau...hmmmm
Speaking of desperate housewives, the drama series which bares the same title is coincidently my favorite TV show (mind boggling eh? muahahaha). Like what you see on TV, I’ve met and befriended people with so many different characters, including one that bares an eerie resemblance to Bree Van de Kamp for real!
Of all the characters in the series, I could identify myself more with Leanette Scavo – blessed with many kids, smart (I’m sorry, I can’t help it...hihihihi), a problem solver, an unenthusiastic stay-at-home-mom (but she’s working now. Good for her!), a survivor and she leads a simple life (yet complicated in so many ways) like I do.
I say life has so many surprises. One day you are on top of the world and next you could find yourself at the bottom of the food chain. One should bersyukur dengan segala pemberian-Nya.
Awat gambaq jadi kecik tak tau...hmmmm
Speaking of desperate housewives, the drama series which bares the same title is coincidently my favorite TV show (mind boggling eh? muahahaha). Like what you see on TV, I’ve met and befriended people with so many different characters, including one that bares an eerie resemblance to Bree Van de Kamp for real!
Of all the characters in the series, I could identify myself more with Leanette Scavo – blessed with many kids, smart (I’m sorry, I can’t help it...hihihihi), a problem solver, an unenthusiastic stay-at-home-mom (but she’s working now. Good for her!), a survivor and she leads a simple life (yet complicated in so many ways) like I do.
I say life has so many surprises. One day you are on top of the world and next you could find yourself at the bottom of the food chain. One should bersyukur dengan segala pemberian-Nya.
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
10 tips to keep your marriage alive and kickin’
With my hubby away, I find myself plenty of time to read and write. Not so bad after all kan...
[Warning: the content of this article may not be suitable for children below the age of 21]
We often receive tips via e-mail on keeping a happy marriage. I just got one a few days ago which I will most likely NOT read. In women magazines all around the world, there are plenty of similar tips too all year long (which I also never bothered to read). Somehow I always find this rather amusing...as I always said to myself and to my husband, I should be writing one of these not reading one.
Hence, in proving my point, I have decided to write my very own version of - 10 TIPS TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE ALIVE AND KICKIN' the Glokalmama way.
1. Talk it out – This has become a standard in every 10 tips there is. Communication is the key for all healthy marriages – it bridges the gap between the two of you. If you don’t communicate, you could kiss your marriage goodbye. BUT don’t communicate for the sake of communicating; you have to be sincere in your conversation. Spend some time together to talk and open up to each other. Remember, men need to be told straightforwardly. They can’t read minds and decipher body language like us females.
These days we are blessed with modern technology that could keep couples in touch 24-7, mobile phones for example. Make full use of it, if you have problem saying it out loud, you could always text him (aren’t we lucky?). Based on my own experience, I get better responds from the other end of the line through text messages. Sometimes people communicate better in writing, mind boggling eh? In a weird way, sms-es keep me closer to him when he is away, not to mention cheaper too.
2. Make love – There is a reason why people call it “Make Love”. Coz when you make love, you MAKE love. Love blossoms more when you have physical contact. You’ll be surprise how often he’d say “I love you” right after. Think of it as a fertilizer for your marriage. The more you do it, the healthier your marriage is. So use your imagination, be wild, role play and don’t be shy. Remember, you need to fertilize your marriage often!
3. Presentation matters – Make a point to look good for each other. I do this out of respect for my husband. If there is one person in this world that you should look good to, it’s your other half NOT your boss, your friends, clients or strangers. I make sure I dress my best and hair in shape (thank God for rebonding technique. To whoever came up with the idea, well done!) whenever he’s home or when I go outing with him. Remember, men like trophy wives – even if you don’t look like one (like moi) take some extra efforts to make him feel like one. But this has to work vice versa too lah *hint hint*
4. Fill his tummy – take an extra effort to cook even though you are not a good cook. Make a point to prepare his favourite food once in a while and learn new stuff too. Remember, practice makes perfect. Men like to be treated like a king when it comes to food. If you need help, Google is always there for you, I've got plenty of help there. Gendang gendut tali kecapi, senang perut senang hati...need I say more? The husbands on the other hand should take the initiative to take the wives out for fine dining regularly.
5. Surprise each other – Once a while show up at the airport in your lingerie (of course you must know how to cover yourself up lah, di mana ada kemahuan di situ ada jalan), pick him up for lunch without prior notice in your sexiest outfit, buy him stuff that he likes (I love shopping for him), change your hair style, serve him with extra special food the minute he walks in from work, etc...all this will keep him wanting for more of you. Just use your imagination... The husbands on the other hand are strongly encouraged to surprise the wives with thoughtful gifts when she expects it the least (and you should do this regularly, not once in a blue moon *hint hint hint*).
6. Make him feel important – there are so many ways to execute this, a simple act of serving him drink, sembahyang berjemaah and kissing his hand thereafter (I always feel a very strong connection when we pray berjemaah), ask for his permission to do certain stuff or to go somewhere, all these will make him feel important and worthy of a husband. What men don’t like to feel important huh? When he’s happy, he’ll be more generous with you *wink*.
7. Don’t be shy, show lotsa affection – This is as good as making love. Frequent human contact between the two of you is superlative (I love it when I use big words...hehe). Kiss, hold hands, hugs and flirts with each other all the time, out in the open and not strictly in the bedroom. Drown each other with affections; it won’t harm you at all. I love this part because it makes me feel like we were just married. In a sense, it renews your passion every day. My hubby still kisses me in public and we hold hands all the time. I love it! I feel loved. Flirting could also come in many ways - you could even flirt via sms. I’d like to call it e-flirting. Try it and you’ll be intrigued!
8. Take time out together – Making time for each other is very important. No matter how busy you are and how much you love the kids, you need to pamper your nuptials with lots of TLC. Take time out, go watch a movie, go on a date the whole day and forget about the kids once a while. I do this at least once a month. It makes you feel younger with just the two of you. It’s even better if you could plan for a getaway. I can’t wait for Sophie to be a little bit more independent so I could go on one soon. I so desperately need one right now!
9. Work harder, make more money – People say money can’t buy love but lack of it would certainly make you a little less happy. Having a strong financial standing ensures your future and makes happy and comfortable living. I say money CAN buy happiness, at lease materialistically. Never say money is not a factor (it might be true a century ago). If you think it doesn’t, you are either been living in denial or you’re born with a silver spoon in your mouth.
10. Doa & tawakkal – last but certainly not the least, we must ask for God’s intervention too. In my prayers I always ask semoga jodoh kami berpanjangan hingga akhir hayat & bahagia dunia dan akhirat. Don’t underestimate the power of prayers, ever! Usaha+tawakkal=sukses, insyaAllah.
For the husbands, remember this - a happy wife makes a happy home. I say BOTH need to be creative to keep love in the air for the rest of our lives...marriage is hard work, not an easy game.
[Warning: the content of this article may not be suitable for children below the age of 21]
We often receive tips via e-mail on keeping a happy marriage. I just got one a few days ago which I will most likely NOT read. In women magazines all around the world, there are plenty of similar tips too all year long (which I also never bothered to read). Somehow I always find this rather amusing...as I always said to myself and to my husband, I should be writing one of these not reading one.
Hence, in proving my point, I have decided to write my very own version of - 10 TIPS TO KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE ALIVE AND KICKIN' the Glokalmama way.
1. Talk it out – This has become a standard in every 10 tips there is. Communication is the key for all healthy marriages – it bridges the gap between the two of you. If you don’t communicate, you could kiss your marriage goodbye. BUT don’t communicate for the sake of communicating; you have to be sincere in your conversation. Spend some time together to talk and open up to each other. Remember, men need to be told straightforwardly. They can’t read minds and decipher body language like us females.
These days we are blessed with modern technology that could keep couples in touch 24-7, mobile phones for example. Make full use of it, if you have problem saying it out loud, you could always text him (aren’t we lucky?). Based on my own experience, I get better responds from the other end of the line through text messages. Sometimes people communicate better in writing, mind boggling eh? In a weird way, sms-es keep me closer to him when he is away, not to mention cheaper too.
2. Make love – There is a reason why people call it “Make Love”. Coz when you make love, you MAKE love. Love blossoms more when you have physical contact. You’ll be surprise how often he’d say “I love you” right after. Think of it as a fertilizer for your marriage. The more you do it, the healthier your marriage is. So use your imagination, be wild, role play and don’t be shy. Remember, you need to fertilize your marriage often!
3. Presentation matters – Make a point to look good for each other. I do this out of respect for my husband. If there is one person in this world that you should look good to, it’s your other half NOT your boss, your friends, clients or strangers. I make sure I dress my best and hair in shape (thank God for rebonding technique. To whoever came up with the idea, well done!) whenever he’s home or when I go outing with him. Remember, men like trophy wives – even if you don’t look like one (like moi) take some extra efforts to make him feel like one. But this has to work vice versa too lah *hint hint*
4. Fill his tummy – take an extra effort to cook even though you are not a good cook. Make a point to prepare his favourite food once in a while and learn new stuff too. Remember, practice makes perfect. Men like to be treated like a king when it comes to food. If you need help, Google is always there for you, I've got plenty of help there. Gendang gendut tali kecapi, senang perut senang hati...need I say more? The husbands on the other hand should take the initiative to take the wives out for fine dining regularly.
5. Surprise each other – Once a while show up at the airport in your lingerie (of course you must know how to cover yourself up lah, di mana ada kemahuan di situ ada jalan), pick him up for lunch without prior notice in your sexiest outfit, buy him stuff that he likes (I love shopping for him), change your hair style, serve him with extra special food the minute he walks in from work, etc...all this will keep him wanting for more of you. Just use your imagination... The husbands on the other hand are strongly encouraged to surprise the wives with thoughtful gifts when she expects it the least (and you should do this regularly, not once in a blue moon *hint hint hint*).
6. Make him feel important – there are so many ways to execute this, a simple act of serving him drink, sembahyang berjemaah and kissing his hand thereafter (I always feel a very strong connection when we pray berjemaah), ask for his permission to do certain stuff or to go somewhere, all these will make him feel important and worthy of a husband. What men don’t like to feel important huh? When he’s happy, he’ll be more generous with you *wink*.
7. Don’t be shy, show lotsa affection – This is as good as making love. Frequent human contact between the two of you is superlative (I love it when I use big words...hehe). Kiss, hold hands, hugs and flirts with each other all the time, out in the open and not strictly in the bedroom. Drown each other with affections; it won’t harm you at all. I love this part because it makes me feel like we were just married. In a sense, it renews your passion every day. My hubby still kisses me in public and we hold hands all the time. I love it! I feel loved. Flirting could also come in many ways - you could even flirt via sms. I’d like to call it e-flirting. Try it and you’ll be intrigued!
8. Take time out together – Making time for each other is very important. No matter how busy you are and how much you love the kids, you need to pamper your nuptials with lots of TLC. Take time out, go watch a movie, go on a date the whole day and forget about the kids once a while. I do this at least once a month. It makes you feel younger with just the two of you. It’s even better if you could plan for a getaway. I can’t wait for Sophie to be a little bit more independent so I could go on one soon. I so desperately need one right now!
9. Work harder, make more money – People say money can’t buy love but lack of it would certainly make you a little less happy. Having a strong financial standing ensures your future and makes happy and comfortable living. I say money CAN buy happiness, at lease materialistically. Never say money is not a factor (it might be true a century ago). If you think it doesn’t, you are either been living in denial or you’re born with a silver spoon in your mouth.
10. Doa & tawakkal – last but certainly not the least, we must ask for God’s intervention too. In my prayers I always ask semoga jodoh kami berpanjangan hingga akhir hayat & bahagia dunia dan akhirat. Don’t underestimate the power of prayers, ever! Usaha+tawakkal=sukses, insyaAllah.
For the husbands, remember this - a happy wife makes a happy home. I say BOTH need to be creative to keep love in the air for the rest of our lives...marriage is hard work, not an easy game.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Of brainy and wandering minds
What’s happening to our students these days? In 1 short week we read stories about local uni students selling sex toys and paraphernalia to fellow students while moonlighting as pimps too. And just two days ago, a top SPM student was apprehended for false impersonation of a royalty. And all these happened right here in Malaysia. Malaysia boleh!!!
Well, I say this is exactly what happened when intelligent minds have too much imagination and they just don’t have enough creative outlets to express their ingenuity. Their minds wander to places they shouldn’t be. I’m no Minister of Education but I’d quickly form a team to brainstorm ideas for students to channel their curiosity and talents if I were one. Owhh I forgot...our politicians are more occupied with by elections (have you ever wondered why so many politicians have died unexpectedly after the last general elections? hmmmm) and finding each other’s faults these days...Malaysia boleh!
As in the case of false impersonation of a royalty, I actually admire the kid’s guts. I was amused when I read the story more than anything else. It was pure ingenuity for a 17 year old to write to National Service Camp claiming that he is an adopted child of the Johor royal family and requested to pay a visit at the camp. He was welcomed with protocol befitting a royalty and even given the honour to award some medals to the participants at the camp. I have to say not many are as quick-witted and have guts as big as a mountain to do such thing. Way to go kiddo! I say this boy has great potentials. Let’s just pray that he doesn’t turn into a professional conman.
But in the other case, it was greed above anything else. It was all about $$$$$$. Make no mistake, this one is really evil waiting to unleash. Imagine what would these kids do when they graduate; the lure of money in the underworld is way too tempting to get them back on the right track. I don’t really believe in rehabilitation - old habits die hard, more so when it comes to money.
I say our government should learn a thing or two from the developed nations on good practices for education system. Finland would be a good start.
Well, I say this is exactly what happened when intelligent minds have too much imagination and they just don’t have enough creative outlets to express their ingenuity. Their minds wander to places they shouldn’t be. I’m no Minister of Education but I’d quickly form a team to brainstorm ideas for students to channel their curiosity and talents if I were one. Owhh I forgot...our politicians are more occupied with by elections (have you ever wondered why so many politicians have died unexpectedly after the last general elections? hmmmm) and finding each other’s faults these days...Malaysia boleh!
As in the case of false impersonation of a royalty, I actually admire the kid’s guts. I was amused when I read the story more than anything else. It was pure ingenuity for a 17 year old to write to National Service Camp claiming that he is an adopted child of the Johor royal family and requested to pay a visit at the camp. He was welcomed with protocol befitting a royalty and even given the honour to award some medals to the participants at the camp. I have to say not many are as quick-witted and have guts as big as a mountain to do such thing. Way to go kiddo! I say this boy has great potentials. Let’s just pray that he doesn’t turn into a professional conman.
But in the other case, it was greed above anything else. It was all about $$$$$$. Make no mistake, this one is really evil waiting to unleash. Imagine what would these kids do when they graduate; the lure of money in the underworld is way too tempting to get them back on the right track. I don’t really believe in rehabilitation - old habits die hard, more so when it comes to money.
I say our government should learn a thing or two from the developed nations on good practices for education system. Finland would be a good start.
Monday, April 12, 2010
Houston we have a problem!
My hubby is away...again. These days we see him less than 15 days a month and we are considered very lucky if he’s home on weekends. Right now I am seriously contemplating changing my status to desperate housewife! I am desperate for just about anything...kwang3x
This whole ‘away all the time’ situation does make me wonder whether I could handle work and parenting all by myself if I were to go back to work now, especially in a crucial year like this - a child sitting for a major exams. I fear history may repeat itself - I almost had a breakdown (crazy is more like it actually) 3+ years ago when my eldest was sitting for his UPSR, Nana was about Sophie’s age & Kyle was behaving at his worst – my hubby was away ALL the time and I had a very demanding job. This thought is actually haunting me every single day and has put my job hunting to a halt. Okay...enough of my dilemma, such a boring topic to read eh?
On to a more exciting topic - the kiddos. A couple of weeks ago my second son was given an assignment by his BM teacher to compose a poem for his parents – pantun untuk ibu & ayah. He was having problems with it and naturally he came to me for help. In my effort to inspire him to be the greatest poet of all time, I asked him to describe his feeling for me out loud. And guess what, he choked! I was thinking if he could tell me how he feels about me, i.e. his mom, it’d help him write with ease. He just need to follow his thoughts and say it out loud. But obviously he can’t, my son has trouble expressing his feeling for others. Houston we have a problem! A big one, huge, humungous and of a catastrophic proportion!
He is simply too inhibited, the total opposite of my eldest who is an extrovert and a natural orator (and I must say very persistent too). Now that I think about it, he has never said "I love you" to me ever, nor has he ever said out loud how much he misses his papa when he's away. Yet every night before he goes to bed and every day before he leaves for school, he would come and kiss my hands and expect me to kiss him back in return (he's my only child who does this religiously); and throws tantrums whenever Papa is away for too long. He is just not very good with words I guess. I think I was once like him...a long long time ago.
Now back to the poem, after some guidance he came up with the following (good job Kyle!):
Untuk ibuku tersayang
Ibu, cintamu tidak boleh dibeli
Ibu, syurgaku di tapak kakimu
Membantuku dalam pelbagai masalah
Ibulah ratu hatiku
Untuk ayah tercinta
Bapa, membantu keluarga dalam pelbagai cara
Manjaga keluarga dengan sepenuh hati
Seluruh keluarga patuh kepadanya
Memajukan keluarga hasrat hatinya
(notice the absence of the words I LOVE YOU in the poem, he just can’t say it...haru biru!)
I could only hope that over time he would overcome this hurdle and be able to express himself effectively with a little guidance from his ratu hati...insyaAllah. No mountain is too big kiddo!
I say this again, nature triumphs over nurture every step of the way.
This whole ‘away all the time’ situation does make me wonder whether I could handle work and parenting all by myself if I were to go back to work now, especially in a crucial year like this - a child sitting for a major exams. I fear history may repeat itself - I almost had a breakdown (crazy is more like it actually) 3+ years ago when my eldest was sitting for his UPSR, Nana was about Sophie’s age & Kyle was behaving at his worst – my hubby was away ALL the time and I had a very demanding job. This thought is actually haunting me every single day and has put my job hunting to a halt. Okay...enough of my dilemma, such a boring topic to read eh?
On to a more exciting topic - the kiddos. A couple of weeks ago my second son was given an assignment by his BM teacher to compose a poem for his parents – pantun untuk ibu & ayah. He was having problems with it and naturally he came to me for help. In my effort to inspire him to be the greatest poet of all time, I asked him to describe his feeling for me out loud. And guess what, he choked! I was thinking if he could tell me how he feels about me, i.e. his mom, it’d help him write with ease. He just need to follow his thoughts and say it out loud. But obviously he can’t, my son has trouble expressing his feeling for others. Houston we have a problem! A big one, huge, humungous and of a catastrophic proportion!
He is simply too inhibited, the total opposite of my eldest who is an extrovert and a natural orator (and I must say very persistent too). Now that I think about it, he has never said "I love you" to me ever, nor has he ever said out loud how much he misses his papa when he's away. Yet every night before he goes to bed and every day before he leaves for school, he would come and kiss my hands and expect me to kiss him back in return (he's my only child who does this religiously); and throws tantrums whenever Papa is away for too long. He is just not very good with words I guess. I think I was once like him...a long long time ago.
Now back to the poem, after some guidance he came up with the following (good job Kyle!):
Untuk ibuku tersayang
Ibu, cintamu tidak boleh dibeli
Ibu, syurgaku di tapak kakimu
Membantuku dalam pelbagai masalah
Ibulah ratu hatiku
Untuk ayah tercinta
Bapa, membantu keluarga dalam pelbagai cara
Manjaga keluarga dengan sepenuh hati
Seluruh keluarga patuh kepadanya
Memajukan keluarga hasrat hatinya
(notice the absence of the words I LOVE YOU in the poem, he just can’t say it...haru biru!)
I could only hope that over time he would overcome this hurdle and be able to express himself effectively with a little guidance from his ratu hati...insyaAllah. No mountain is too big kiddo!
I say this again, nature triumphs over nurture every step of the way.
Saturday, April 10, 2010
What's for dinner Ma?
“What’s for dinner Ma?” My two ‘heavy-weight’ sons utter these four little words more often than “I love you Ma”...a hell lot more! In fact, they ask me the same question tirelessly everyday without fail ever since I become THEIR full-time mom. If the answer is “the same thing we had for lunch” I guarantee you that they will make their long face, regardless of how good was the food prepared for lunch. In their dictionary, what was prepared for lunch is strictly for lunch, no such thing as ‘carry forward’ for dinner. See how difficult my life is, I have to cook at least twice a day. These days I even prepare snacks for afternoon tea (but this one is out of my own extra effort la, kononnya to please my dear hubby whenever he’s around). Thank God for my maid that could cook breakfast for them...wheee! Otherwise moi has to cook 4 times a day! Pengsan...
But of course there are exceptions. Nasi lemak for example. They could savour nasi lemak for breakfast, lunch and dinner, even supper too. However, moi being an advocate-of-healthy living-wanna-be, opt not to cook nasi lemak too often. I don’t want my sons and my dear hubby to gain more and more weight. All the 3 men in my nuclear family are overweight. In fact my eldest was once considered obese and at this rate my second son is also going on that direction. Thank God my two daughters are as lean and pretty as their ever wonderful mom...wahahaha (it’s been a while since I last masuk bakul angkat sendiri taww).
I tried different ways to make them lose some extra pounds, to no avail. Signed up my son for swimming class hoping for him to lose some weight, instead he gained a lot more. I didn’t know swimming can ‘fatten’ a child. So mothers beware. My second son has lost his handsomeness because of swimming! Explained to my eldest how important it is to keep a healthy weight, even to the extent of telling him that girls prefer lean boys, fat boys are not desirable bla bla bla (I know...not a very good advice eh?). At home, chicken (and I ONLY use antibiotic-free chicken) is cooked without its skin, soft drinks and junk food are not encouraged, use herba ponni rice (the type that has less carbo) etc…but somehow they just keep piling on their weight...pelik tapi benar. The same goes for the hubby. But in his case he always blames it back on me – I’m too good of a cook he said...kononnya lah. But then again compared to his mom, I am like a 5-star Michelin chef...ngeh3x. *ya Allah ya Tuhanku, ampunkanlah dosa hamba-Mu ini*
[Tips to single women: marry a man whose mom is not a good cook, he’ll appreciate your so-called culinary skill a hell lots more]
Just a little side track, in my spare time I have mastered the art of baking simple banana cake, new york cheesecake, my own version of Japanese cotton cheesecake and plenty of kuih & simple pastry. The latest is easy peasy egg tart, thanks to Dak Wan...muahhhs. I love the cheating part – great minds think alike eh? Next, I’m wanna master the art of baking chewy brownies. Got the recipe from a friend who is also a cake guru (love you laling Azian...muahhhhs) but yet to try it coz I haven’t got the time to source for the ingredients. I have eaten her brownies...meletops I tell ya, super duper yummy! Cookies are on my list too. Baked a few batches before but the result was not so good. I’m still hunting for extra-ordinarily good recipe for cookies.
Perhaps I should showcase some of the food I prepare at home and share the recipe here. Hmmm...something to ponder for the weeks to come.
I say does it really make a difference being overly careful with what we eat? I know a person who eats only organic vege, never eat fried stuff or red meat, only drink homemade vege or fruit juice and never take a puff in his entire life, yet he was diagnosed with lung cancer. Now the cancer has spread to his brain. Allah works in mysterious way indeed, wallahuwa’lam...
But of course there are exceptions. Nasi lemak for example. They could savour nasi lemak for breakfast, lunch and dinner, even supper too. However, moi being an advocate-of-healthy living-wanna-be, opt not to cook nasi lemak too often. I don’t want my sons and my dear hubby to gain more and more weight. All the 3 men in my nuclear family are overweight. In fact my eldest was once considered obese and at this rate my second son is also going on that direction. Thank God my two daughters are as lean and pretty as their ever wonderful mom...wahahaha (it’s been a while since I last masuk bakul angkat sendiri taww).
I tried different ways to make them lose some extra pounds, to no avail. Signed up my son for swimming class hoping for him to lose some weight, instead he gained a lot more. I didn’t know swimming can ‘fatten’ a child. So mothers beware. My second son has lost his handsomeness because of swimming! Explained to my eldest how important it is to keep a healthy weight, even to the extent of telling him that girls prefer lean boys, fat boys are not desirable bla bla bla (I know...not a very good advice eh?). At home, chicken (and I ONLY use antibiotic-free chicken) is cooked without its skin, soft drinks and junk food are not encouraged, use herba ponni rice (the type that has less carbo) etc…but somehow they just keep piling on their weight...pelik tapi benar. The same goes for the hubby. But in his case he always blames it back on me – I’m too good of a cook he said...kononnya lah. But then again compared to his mom, I am like a 5-star Michelin chef...ngeh3x. *ya Allah ya Tuhanku, ampunkanlah dosa hamba-Mu ini*
[Tips to single women: marry a man whose mom is not a good cook, he’ll appreciate your so-called culinary skill a hell lots more]
Just a little side track, in my spare time I have mastered the art of baking simple banana cake, new york cheesecake, my own version of Japanese cotton cheesecake and plenty of kuih & simple pastry. The latest is easy peasy egg tart, thanks to Dak Wan...muahhhs. I love the cheating part – great minds think alike eh? Next, I’m wanna master the art of baking chewy brownies. Got the recipe from a friend who is also a cake guru (love you laling Azian...muahhhhs) but yet to try it coz I haven’t got the time to source for the ingredients. I have eaten her brownies...meletops I tell ya, super duper yummy! Cookies are on my list too. Baked a few batches before but the result was not so good. I’m still hunting for extra-ordinarily good recipe for cookies.
Perhaps I should showcase some of the food I prepare at home and share the recipe here. Hmmm...something to ponder for the weeks to come.
I say does it really make a difference being overly careful with what we eat? I know a person who eats only organic vege, never eat fried stuff or red meat, only drink homemade vege or fruit juice and never take a puff in his entire life, yet he was diagnosed with lung cancer. Now the cancer has spread to his brain. Allah works in mysterious way indeed, wallahuwa’lam...
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
A mother gotta do what a mother gotta do!
I just sent my son off for his rugby practice albeit a heavy heart. I don't quite approve of him playing Rugby - such a rough sport for my big baby...sigh! This is all my hubby's doing. He wants his son to follow his footsteps...grrrrr.
As mothers, there will be time where you will become suspicious of your kids doing, worry unnecessarily and genuinely wary. Ladies and gentlemen, this is where I’m at now tadaaaa...and I tell ya this is certainly not a happy place to be on earth.
My eldest son is going to be 15 soon (I know...I don’t look like it eh?). The other day I was interrogating him about his school activities and he ask me why am I so suspicious of him. He assured me that he is such a nerdy and goody two-shoes that I don’t have to worry about him being irresponsible ever. My answer to him was simple – it’s my JOB to worry because I am his mother and I do that because I CARE!
Wouldn’t you agree that being a mother, it’s our job to ensure that our kids are doing well in school, mix with the right crowd (at his age, peer pressure could either make or break a child. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. I have seen the worst of it!); and partake in what we see as the appropriate activities for their age, although in my case my hubby does have a veto power to override my decision at times.
In most instances it’s safe to say that fathers would leave the decision-making to the mothers especially when it comes to negative decisions - the ones that you have to say NO to. I presume they want to remain popular (Mr. Popular vs Mrs. Diciplinarian, remember?) by not being the bad person to have to say no to the kids all the times. Well honestly, I don’t blame them entirely. In my case, my hubby spends very little time with the kids because of his work demands. Hence, he tries his best to spend what little time he has with the kids being a santa clause – the one who always give them candy and makes them happy while I ended up being the wicked step mother. Ah well...what can you do, you have to pay the price of being a 'good' mother. You just have to do what you have to do...sigh.
I say you should be grateful if you have someone checking on you all the time. It shows that you have someone who cares, someone that misses you and someone who loves you dearly. I hope one day my kids would return the favour. I love you kiddos!
As mothers, there will be time where you will become suspicious of your kids doing, worry unnecessarily and genuinely wary. Ladies and gentlemen, this is where I’m at now tadaaaa...and I tell ya this is certainly not a happy place to be on earth.
My eldest son is going to be 15 soon (I know...I don’t look like it eh?). The other day I was interrogating him about his school activities and he ask me why am I so suspicious of him. He assured me that he is such a nerdy and goody two-shoes that I don’t have to worry about him being irresponsible ever. My answer to him was simple – it’s my JOB to worry because I am his mother and I do that because I CARE!
Wouldn’t you agree that being a mother, it’s our job to ensure that our kids are doing well in school, mix with the right crowd (at his age, peer pressure could either make or break a child. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. I have seen the worst of it!); and partake in what we see as the appropriate activities for their age, although in my case my hubby does have a veto power to override my decision at times.
In most instances it’s safe to say that fathers would leave the decision-making to the mothers especially when it comes to negative decisions - the ones that you have to say NO to. I presume they want to remain popular (Mr. Popular vs Mrs. Diciplinarian, remember?) by not being the bad person to have to say no to the kids all the times. Well honestly, I don’t blame them entirely. In my case, my hubby spends very little time with the kids because of his work demands. Hence, he tries his best to spend what little time he has with the kids being a santa clause – the one who always give them candy and makes them happy while I ended up being the wicked step mother. Ah well...what can you do, you have to pay the price of being a 'good' mother. You just have to do what you have to do...sigh.
I say you should be grateful if you have someone checking on you all the time. It shows that you have someone who cares, someone that misses you and someone who loves you dearly. I hope one day my kids would return the favour. I love you kiddos!
A victim of water tumbler
Warning to all mothers, steel water tumbler may be harmful to your kids – trust me, my second son is a living proof! He lost half of his front tooth while playfully carrying his tumbler at school. Now my baby has to live with chipped tooth for life. Kesian the poor fella, saham sudah jatuh...
The culprit
The casualty
OMG, I just realised how chubby my son is!
I say Allah works in mysterious way indeed. No matter how careful we are about our well being, mishap, sickness and death could simply come anytime, anywhere... Death could come even when you're watching TV or filling up petrol...wallahuwa’lam.
The culprit
The casualty
OMG, I just realised how chubby my son is!I say Allah works in mysterious way indeed. No matter how careful we are about our well being, mishap, sickness and death could simply come anytime, anywhere... Death could come even when you're watching TV or filling up petrol...wallahuwa’lam.
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